Do you every really lose your temper?
I'm not one to blow my top very often. Not that I don't get angry, but I usually have the wherewithall to hold it in or walk away. But not today.
My buttons got pushed. I was accused of something I didn't do. I should have bitten my tongue until it bled, but I didn't. I let my emotions get the best of me. I was wronged and I responded wrongly.
The Bible talks about us being angry - we're emotional creatures. And there are times when anger is appropriate. Jesus got really ticked when He saw God's temple being abused, and He responded in anger. So sometimes it's right to be angry.
But for me, I'm sure I was right to be angry, I'm just think if I had been under God's control at the moment rather than feeling the necessity to defend myself I would have been more like Jesus.
And that's the goal, right?
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Ok, I'm convicted. I do that more than I should.
Christy in KY
I think that sometimes all of us get pushed into an emotional defense mode. Especially when we are labeled by people with a specific agenda that causes hurt and intends to do damage to us. I think it is human to be quick to blow our top. I think also, that to be able to maintain control of our emotions, in a situation such as that, it takes more than a level head. I think it takes a good suit of armor, one that is tailored for "gearing up" to shield us from all Satan can throw our way.
There is no doubt the evils of this world will attack us from many angles, looking for that weak spot. I think our emotions are but one area we all fall short in being more like Jesus.
But you know what? The more we walk and talk in the word, and witness to people everyday, the harder the armor is to penetrate.
I think about how many times Jesus had to turn the other cheek, and try to remember that it is very easy to turn your head just a little.
Personally, I've never lost my cool, but I've read about people who have!
Just kidding, thanks for the vulnerability. Isn't grace amazing?
Yes, you ARE human after all! BUT, don't forget to apologise. Your post is very good, don't get me wrong, but being wrongly accused, doesn't always mean the other person was wrong. lol, let me explain. They may have the wrong idea about the situation, but that doesn't make them a liar, just misinformed. And, they should probably apologise, as well.
Sorry, don't mean to ramble, just I've been on the other side of such an issue and I was only going on the information I had when I asked about something. (I do see the difference between asking and accusing but the other party didn't). I DID apologise for not having accurate information and I DID explain that I'd only asked, not accused, but they had responded in anger and were deliberately hurtful. I, on the other hand, was not deliberately hurtful.
In the end, everyone apologised and all was well but had they NOT apologised, it could potentially still hurt.
SO, it is a very good post just don't forget to apologise! :)
Hi Kari,
I do intend to apoligize for losing my temper and not biting my tongue. However, in this situation, this person made up the accusation, knowing it was not factual. She even (when pressed about it) confessed that she was "a liar" (her words!).
But...it was still somehow my fault?!
(And for all my church family looking in, it wasn't anyone in the church!)
OOPS... no, I meant to apologise for losing your temper...NOT her false accusation...Sorry...
Kari
Thank you for your honestly and transparency. It is refreshing to hear a "man of the cloth" admit to stumbling. We ALL fall short of the glory of God and through His AMAZING grace, we grow, learn, and are forgiven. You are a treasure, Pastor Rick.
T just found out about your anger issue and he was very sorry - he said he didn't mean to say you didn't look good without your mustache and goatee.
Dear grandfather-as-yet-to-be-named:
You know from past experience that almost nothing gets my temper up faster than someone hurting YOUR feelings or being unfair to you. I think the events of the past few months have peeled back most of your tough skin in ways you didn't know were possible and that makes those of us who love you want to protect you even more! The enemy knows your defenses are down and your buttons are more vulnerable, and if he can't kick you when you're down, when can he? Just trying to say we're lifting you up, in the little things and the big ones!
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